The Menu Corollary

So there you are, sitting with your man, at dinner.

Or was it were you were standing in line with him at theater?

Maybe it happened when walking on the boardwalk with him, on a hot summer day.

Step away from the menu, their is nothing to see here.

Step away from the menu, there is nothing to see here.

And, for one brief moment, you see it, something that you expected guys to do, but may have never witnessed in person.  You wished it didn’t exist. But there it was, almost as if it was a slap to the face.  You lie to yourself, saying,

“Self? He didn’t do that, I must of stubbed my toe and the pain made it so I was hallucinating.”

That’s it, you were hallucinating, because guys wouldn’t ever fall to the lowly idea that they wouldn’t have respect in you.

“Well, maybe he just wrenched his neck?”

Even better, blame it on his inability to walk upright, and not coincidentally injure his neck at the same time.

You have just witnessed one of the worst offences of all the objectionable acts that guys do in the company of their “sweetheart,” the one you loved so deeply.

So here it happened, a shocking level of disrespect that brought down, this happy level of love, that this women had for you, and you became, just a “typical man.”

And, when it finally registers, she realizes… He looked at the menu.

Is it so difficult, and really that hard to always be in the moment.  Telling your wife or girlfriend, that you have no self-control? That this beautiful women, that you are trying to love, or learning to love, now feels that they may have to accept this flaw, if you can beg your way out of it.

Self esteem is a constant threat to marriage.  It is one of those things that us guys need to realize.  We need to comfort, embrace, and build up this person that we love, so that trust can be given freely.  Even being aware of another women, is the gateway.  A women will pick up on this so quickly.  They may lie to themselves about what they saw, but they really know deep down inside.  And later, these lies that you have built up in her, will come back in full swing.

The corollary to this problem, is that as a guy, you will never receive the fullness of love and trust, that a women is so willing to give to a man.  You will live a life of solitude, even in the presence of others and maybe even in this women, and you will miss out on the greatest joy that you could ever receive.  Her desire to cherish, adore and be in a love with a man, that truly loves her.

So in your efforts to love your wife, step away from the menu. There is nothing for you there.


2 comments so far

  1. Sajib on

    I forgot what is hallucination? Can you define it to me, please?

  2. Travis on

    Hi Sajib, a hallucination has a couple of meanings that are related. states:

    “a sensory experience of something that does not exist outside the mind, caused by various physical and mental disorders, or by reaction to certain toxic substances, and usually manifested as visual or auditory images.”

    but in this case, I used the alternate definition of:

    “a false notion, belief, or impression; illusion; delusion.”

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